i went to college with john and even though i have not spoken to him in over 10 years, the news of his dying has left me in tears with a hole in the corner of my heart; i remember his quiet inner strength and his sly humor. he knew about people and what drove them on the inside. he was older on the inside and i always had this wonderful sense that i had known him before, an effortless ease about him that i will miss for forever. my friend. heike kuehn